Hearts and Stuff

Glad to see that the XXX term is no longer the most popular search term that sends people to my page. Instead, broken heart matters seem to direct people here. Not sure if that makes me happy or sad. I’m happy that the quality of my visitors has risen but i’m sad to see that many people struggle with a wounded heart. But then again, that seems to be what life is about. Finding ways to cope with a broken heart and finding ways not to get your heart broken in the first place. I’m not just talking about lovers matters. There are plenty of ways your fragile heart can be wounded. If someone gets close enough to you, they get instant access to the “breaking of your heart service”. That is if you’re young enough, inexperienced enough, naive enough to think that your heart should be exposed. But it seems that if you protect yourself too much, you can’t “taste” many of life’s pleasures (love, closeness, friendship) and if you don’t protect yourself and leave your heart out for everyone to see, you risk getting hurt.

Here’s a poll to see how you guys go about it:

P.S. The beautiful photo above was created by NUFORMS. Thanks for the comment.

Tips and Tricks – ”Do”s and ”Don’t”s

Reaching almost half my life (don’t try to guess my age, we all have our own view on our life span😀) this is what I learned:

  • As long as you can ‘serve’ other people and their interests, you’re a good guy to keep around. As soon as you stop doing things for others, you turn into the bad guy and get discarded. So don’t try to please everybody hoping that they will all like you. You will only end up a miserable tool.
  • Get used to the idea that nobody gives a flying fuck about your needs or feelings. This way you won’t get disappointed as much.
  • Speak your mind no matter what. Your words and actions define you as a person. If you keep telling people what they want to hear and censor yourself you will only turn into a broken mirror image of the people around you.
  • Say ‘thank you’ whenever the case and don’t expect to be thanked in return. Nobody does that anymore.
  • People are guilty until proven otherwise. (This will also spare you a lot of disappointments and unpleasant surpises)
  • Learn from every experience and from those of others. A lesson not learned is a mistake you’re bound to repeat.
  • Don’t blindly respect the elderly just because you were told you are supposed to. They’re not wisemen, they’re just people with more mistakes than you and more morally corrupt (since they’ve been here long enough).
  • Don’t hurt other people in order to get what you want. That never works out in the long run.
  • Always have a plan. That will prepare you for the various outcomes of different situations and this way you won’t be left wondering what to do.
  • Don’t become a slave of food. People whose eyes glow at the sight of a meal are just sad and pathetic.
  • Also, don’t spend your precious time planning a meal. It’s not a ritual that’s gonna add meaning to your day. It’s just food. Eat it and get back to your life.
  • Don’t try to seem someone you’re not. It would be like wearing a see-through raincoat on your bare skin.
  • Clothes are only meant to cover your body. Spend too much time worrying about the ‘outside’ of you and pretty soon you’ll turn into an empty mannequin.
  • Don’t fear death but don’t wish it either. For the living, death is just a word. It’s only for the dead that it means anything.
  • Don’t waste your time eavesdropping. It will never bring you any good news.
  • Don’t kid yourself thinking you have friends. You will only have a friend at a time. Man is built that way.
  • Learn at least two foreign languages. In this day and age speaking only your native tongue almost makes you an illiterate.
  • Try to play an instrument, try painting or any form of art. You’ll be good at one of them, it will bring you joy and as it turns out it can be an efficient outlet.
  • Don’t let your outlet be another human being (especially not your own child). It won’t be fair to them and it won’t help you either.
  • Don’t see your child as a means to complete yourself. Think of yourself as a means to complete your child.
  • Never let anyone see you cry. ”Releasing bodily fluids” should always be done in private.
  • Embrace music. It will be a faithful companion.
  • Always consider other people’s feelings. It’s not rewarding but it would be a sin not to.
  • Don’t treasure gold and precious stones. It’s just stuff dug out of the ground. Just because other people like to think they’re valuable doesn’t actually make them valuable.
  • Love. It’s one of the few things that will add meaning to you as a human being and to your life.
  • Read. Books not glossy magazines. It will broaden your horizon and will send your mind to places it wouldn’t otherwise be able to reach.
  • Don’t dread work and don’t see it as a way to pay for your food. It will never bring you any satisfaction if you do. And always know the value of your work. Settle for less that you deserve and you’ll be a puppet. Ask for more and probably you’ll get as much as you actually deserve.
  • If you want something done, do it yourself. You’ll end up doing just that anyway so you might as well save some time and brain cells.
  • Don’t envy others and don’t try to be like them. Build your own self.

… I guess the list remains open.

What did your own life teach YOU?

I’d really appreciate your views so feel free to leave a comment.

Time for the Pill


(Album – Golden State)

Let it slide overhead
When I believe in you my soul can rest
But as love that’s really love can never fail
But fail it does
When we shine like the sun
You seem the only one my only friend

So pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
When you’re faithful

I resigned from myself
Took a break as someone else
It’s like we’ve come undone
But I’ve only just become inflatable for you

So pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
When you’re faithful

I don’t mind most of the time
But you push me so far inside

So pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
so pretty in white
Pretty when you’re faithful
When you’re faithful
When you’re faithful